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The richest man, whatever his lot,
is he who is content with what he has got.
-- Dutch Proverb
A dog owns nothing, yet is seldom dissatisfied.
-- Irish Proverb
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god love you
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it's not about having what you want, it's wanting what you have..
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I am blessed, more than I deserve.
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Bill Gates loves his Microsoft!
And I so agree with 'not about having what you want....' Great message!
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I hate the commercials that say "You deserve" this or that. People we don't "deserve" anything. Everything we have or can do is a gift from God. He certainly doesn't owe me anything.
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And the haircolor ad that says, "Because you're worth it."
Contentment is one of the most important things to develop in yourself, as it counteracts greed.
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All that glitters is not gold.
Found by Sera
I am not in love with my boyfriend anymore. We have lived together for three years and are financialy entangled with one another. He is a good man I just don't love him ay more.
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Time to get on with your life. One you fall out of love with someone it just leads to more problems that it is worth. Time to sit down and have a heart to heart. Then go your seperate ways.....
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Sit him down and talk about how you feel.. I know it would be easier to stay together but it will only get worse. Sort it out asap, especially the financial stuff.
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Obviously, she was never truly in love, just "in lust"
Maybe she doesn't float his boat anymore, either.
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It is TIME to move on Life is TOO short! Good luck
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I am not in love with my boyfriend anymore. We have lived together for three years and are financialy entangled with one another. He is a good man I just don't love him ay more.
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Time to get on with your life. One you fall out of love with someone it just leads to more problems that it is worth. Time to sit down and have a heart to heart. Then go your seperate ways.....
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Sit him down and talk about how you feel.. I know it would be easier to stay together but it will only get worse. Sort it out asap, especially the financial stuff.
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Obviously, she was never truly in love, just "in lust"
Maybe she doesn't float his boat anymore, either.
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It is TIME to move on Life is TOO short! Good luck
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Just break up with him, but dont tell him about it. Let the problem work itself out. Kinda like what they did to Milton in Offica Space.
-Ross
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Tell him you don't love him any more but be kind about it. Do move on, life is tooooooo short to stay together, and the longer you stay in a relationship such as this, the harder it is to evenutally part. I know (I speak from experience). Good luck girl.
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Don't waste more of your life or his. Do it. Separate.
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LOL, milton from office space... thats funny!
Seriously though, life is just too short to waste time on this, you have your whole life to live and so does he... dont waste another moment, i wasted 3 years with someone who wasnt right for me, and i stayed for no other reason than comfort.. silly, but we all do it at some stage in our lives.. Goodluck, and at those times when you miss him, just remember how strong you are and what lies ahead.. there is always something exciting around the corner xx CS from South Australia :)
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Move on now! It will not get easier and you will be doing him a favor so that he can find someone that is truly in love with him and not just comfortable with him.
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Do the guy a favor and leave.
Found by Sera
If you were 40 and childless (and single), would you consider having a child on your own or adopting alone?
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If I wanted children, I would go ahead and try to have one. If not, I would consider adopting. My philosophy is this--at age 47 if God wanted me to be a mom, he would have punished long, long ago!!!
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Hmmm being 26 with 3 boys i'd probably not consider it even with a partner!!!
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...Follow your heart....
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Children are not easy to raise even with a partner. They will disappoint you many times. But if raised right, they will be there for you if you need them. I had 4 with my husband of over 50 years. I can enjoy my grandchildren as they go home at night!!
Oklahoma
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You need to ask yourself, in 10 years from now what will you regret most; having a child or not having a child?
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I personally wouldn't want to do either, but I am crazy and I don't want to pass the insanity down. If I wasn't nuts and I was 40 and single and had the burning urge to take a squirmy, crying thing and love it and help it turn into a decent human being, I'd absolutely consider having a kid or adopting on my own. Raising a kid alone is harder, but by the time you're 40 you're probably in a position to make it a lot easier.
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I am 62 and had 3 daughters but if I was in your position I would have a child on my own. I am divorced now and was on my own with the kids for a while although my ex was very supportive and a great dad. Go ahead - you would always regret it if you don't. I don't think you would ever regret it .
JJ = NZ
Found by Sera
If you could pick any age, how old would you like to be?
I'd love to go back to being five years old, were my biggest concern was HOW MUCH candy I'd get on Saturday eve! ;-)
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I would love to be 4 again, being 4 was amazing I was so happy.
BBOT SarahRocks®
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I will stay at 48. Old enough to know better and still young
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back to 21
mb70 (bh) sunshine coast australia
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30 was pretty good for me.
RRCCL, Boston MA
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26
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Im going to say 28. It was a good year :)
new orleans
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35 is the best age for women...at their sexual peak and wanting one more baby, and their man
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I wouldnt want to go back, I wouldn't have my kids.......
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Sometime in my 20's - they were much more fun than the 30's are. Thankfully I'm closing in on 40, so I'm looking forward to the changes it brings.
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i'd rather be where i am, wouldn't want to go back. i had too hard of time getting here.....jp
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Work! neet
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i love the here and now!
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Work! neet
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日本語でOK
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19. when i was a nightclub dj and got paid enuff for what i wanted, surfed after work in the mornings then slept till late arvo.. when shopping hung out with friends then went to work.. it was a blast..
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I've learned to much in my life to go back to any age. Sure it was nice to be care free as a child but I wouldn't want to do my life again. I am happy with my life now.
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I can't go back to my old life.... I wouldn't have what I have today, my beautiful daughter. I'm content where I am in my life....
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Wel if I went back in age I would not have my beautiful grandaughter so maybe It is ok to be this age, I worked for it any way !!! D
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who cares, live for today, we have major problems to fix, or else we are all doomed, pretty much all at onece.
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I would stay the age I am now
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Yeh, I think i'd pick the age I am now. I like the memories of the 60's, though. 60 cent cigarettes, 60 cent hamburgers, a dime for a glass of beer.
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If going backward didnt mean I wouldnt have my children- I would choose to redo my teenage years. So much that I thought was important then, really wasnt. I also believed when I shouldnt have trusted, and I fell hard for two I shouldnt have- looking back, I should have listened to my mother so much more than I did. Where I thought she totally didnt understand, she really really did know best.~
Michigan, USA September 22, 2006
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I wouldn't go back... sure there were fun, carefree days... and sure there were mistakes that I may like to erase... but in the end, I'm who I am because of everything I've survived/experienced. I love my husband, my son
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I'm pretty happy where I am now.
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Good question! I am going to be 50 in Nov. and OK with that, but I think I would live my 40's over again. That has been a great decade, full of new self confidence.
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<25, but I'd like to keep what I have learned and earned!> can I do that?:)
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I want to go back to being 15, that was the best....too many personal reasons to list..
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I WOULD LIKE TO GO BACK TO AGE 40 BECAUSE I BECAME A GRANDMOTHER AND MY MUM WOULD STILL BE HERE WITH ME AND I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO HAVE HER BACK EVEN FOR A DAY (ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS FOREVER IN MY HEART) ALWAYS SAY I LOVE YOU TO YOUR LOVED ONES CAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN IT COULD BE YOUR LAST .
KEEP SMILING ONTARIO CANADA 9-29-06
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16. I'd get to know a lot more women, happily marry, have kids and grandkids.
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i would like to stay 41(where i am now!) as i have so much more self confidence and better understanding of what is important - but re body 21 it was all so much easier to keep body looking good then!
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This is the 18th bottle that I have gotten twice. I'd still go back to 16.
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I don't really know......My life has been pretty good and I am now 70. However, I have found that times passes too fast and we are old before we know what happened. Just remember to tell your love ones that you love them daily, as we never know what tomorrow will bring. 10-5-06 CA.
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It's true that the child is the father of the man. Without the experiences of life I wouldn't be where I am today. Good or bad, the lessons I've learned have made me who I am and I'm not ashamed of that. Physicaly though, I would love to be 18 again.
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I'm happy at my current age.
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Wouldn't go back. I like it here!
Found by Sera
My secret? I almost bailed at my wedding.
I was still in love with my ex. And although I ended up marrying, I was still in love with my ex for about 2 more years.
Sometimes I talk online and feel I connect to other guys.
The sad part? I honestly love my husband.
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Seems to me you should have done your husband a favor and bailed, but instead you only thought of yourself. How selfish.
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I started the relationship with my currentgirl while I still wasnt over my ex. its taken about 6 months to get over it. my gf knows, and brings it up in every discussion she's losing... but I honestly love my girl, about 10 times more then Ive ever had feelings for my ex. perhaps I should wait longer then 1 month after a 3 year relationship to start a new one
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love alone can tear a person apart.
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it is a shame when you marry someone out of some disjointed loyalty only to spend the rest of your married life miserable
c.u.f
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Yep - I almost married someone out of loyalty - thank heavens I saw the light!
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You know, I have a different point of view about all this. First off, I don't see anyone in this oceangram who married anybody out of loyalty, misplaced or otherwise,. Except for the person just before me, who apparently did.
Second, a lot of people are still in love with their ex after a divorce. That depends on who initiated the divorce and what the issues were. That's pretty normal.
Do you have to wait to have another relationship until the coals of a first are completely dead, I'd say it depends. I don't think it's necessary for all positive feelings about an ex to disappear. However, if you have active plans to socialize with your ex or even try to sleep with him again, you're not ready for another relationship. If you still have thoughts in your head, but no real desire or intention to act on them , I'd say you're ready - go ahead.
Third, as far as I'm concerned, being in a committed relationship doesn't mean that you can't feel you connect with other guys. At least, if "connect" is beng used the way I would use it. Having a committed relationship doesn't mean you can't have connections with other men.
The first person here loves her husband. I don't see that she has anything to be sorry or worried about. At least from what I read in the message. I think some of the people who've added to this oceangram are assuming a lot that isn't said and being very judgmentmental about what they think has been said.
OK. I'm done. Utah USA 9/21/06
-sc
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Well said sc !
Different strokes for different folks. I thhink we can have different sorts of feelings of love. I love several of my friends. Some I just have acquaintances with. All men (as am I) but I have no desire to run away with them and live with them. Slightly different with opposite sex but same principle. As long as there aren't the dangerous 'romantic' fantasies or lust it can work perfectly well. If my wife was still friends with her ex, I could deal with that. If she spent weekends with him I'd worry ! I gues I'm saying that love can change shape from romantic or lustful to cosy and friendly. And there must always be happy times to remember. Don't look for perfection in life. Just make the most of what you have and try not to hurt anyone. RG UK
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I'm totally not married.
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Great words of wisdom in this botle.
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Get counseling!EVERYONE!
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Umm errr .. what they said .. nothing to add here .. Back goes the bottle.
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A lot of people discussing it is better than one trying to deal with it alone.
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I wonder whether the original sender is tracking this? I only want to add that even when in a relationship, people can't help it if they feel "crushes" and/or "connections" to other men or women. These things can pass. It's only a problem if you act on it. Or actively seek it out. Don't ruin what you have on a whim, but don't string your husband along, either.
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Lots of words of wisdom. I made a serious mistake when I married my second husband as he was a horrible mean man. The details would shock anyone but even though I divorced him many long years ago and have no contact it hurt me and my family and the effects are still evident. Take your time choosing a life partner. Six more months and I would never have married him. If a person has met "the right one" he/she will still be there in six months or a year. If it's the wrong person, they will be long gone.
Found by Sera
I am broken
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I am broken as well. But it can't rain all the time.
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perhaps you shold go and see a doctor?? :)
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or talk to a good friend
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jh hnみｋｋ、ｄｇｈｊんｂｍ
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It is through our brokenness that we are healed. Have faith!
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If we didnt have some bad we would never really appreciate the good that comes along-hang in there, things will be better!!
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If you're going through hell Keep on going, Don't slow down, If you're scared, don't show it,
You might get out
Before the devil even knows you're there
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Good song MD
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God does His best work when we are broken before Him. Have faith, He is there to help you through this.
CA 9/19/06
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If He brings you to it, He will bring you through it! Praying for you!
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Duct tape
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If we werent broken from time to time, God wouldnt have any cracks to get in through. Have faith!
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i'm broken as well....and i have nothing to lean on
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(((hugs))) from another broken one sept.26/06
cvs
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we are all broken...
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im not broken,
just cracked.
Found by Sera
"Where's The Time?"
We all have such hectic schedules.
Life has placed so many demands on us
so where does that leave time for the little
things ?
The little things that make the difference.
We all are guilty of a little bit of neglect to
our partner sometimes even maybe in
the sex department.
Your just so tired from your career and
taking care of the kids that sometimes
we just need to take a step back and see
what is really important.
Make a date with your partner, a nice dinner,
maybe a movie, but if that is impossible,
put the kids to bed early, turn the phones
off, and head to a private place in your home,
it doesn't necessarily have to be the bedroom,
any cozy spot in the house will do.
Sometimes that could be where the most
fond memories are made.
After all, you married each other to be together.
Take time to make time
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We have to do the things that are important and that realy matter. Easier said that done......
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No help from me...
--queen of the rat race
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My husband and I take a few minutes every day just to hug and say I love you. It doesn't take long and I wouldn't skip it for the world.
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We never go to sleep without a kiss and telling each other we love one another..............
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True so True…. NEVER go to sleep mad and without telling your spouse that you love them. NEVER let them leave the house without telling them that you love them. My mother and Father taught that to me by doing it all the time…the day my father walked out of the house to go out back to shoe a horse and then had a massive heart attach and died, I heard him tell my mother he loved her and then kissed her like a newlywed. I was 18 and that image has stuck with me all my life since. That day I had to go over to the next town for a meeting and I went to say good bye to him as he was getting the horse out of the coral. As I walked back to the house he called after me …calling me by name he said “always remember that I love you” an hour later he was dead. I have always had the peace in my heart that I was ‘Right’ with dad when he died. 32 years later on the same day my mother died. Even thought I wasn’t living near enough to see her that day I know that I was ‘Right’ with her too, because I had told her of my love for her just days before. Love is the most powerful thing on Earth ...use it every day!!!!
Love you Dad and Mom
Found by Sera
I had an affair with a married man, once. I didn't feel bad about it at the time, but I do now. I'm sorry for the damage I did to his marriage. I'm sorry that I pulled hiom away from his committment, even temporarily. I'm sorry for the time I wasted. So, I guess I just wanted someone to know how sorry I am.
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I can't say that it was ok, but I also don't think that you should beat yourself up too much about it. After all, you weren't the only partner in the affair-- he bears a measure of responsibility for the damage as well. I hope that you can find healing and peace somewhere. Good luck.
09/25/06
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I second what the person above me said. After all the man was the one who was married and had to decide if he could bear with cheating on his wife.
The only thing you should feel bad about is the time you wasted, as you said yourself. There was never a chance to really get together with him, and maybe you missed out on a great time with another guy who you maybe would've had married by now.
I for myself would never start an affair with a married man, as I could not bear to play the second role in his life all the time, and to lie to everybody about my relationship with him. It's nice for him to have two women at the same time, but I would feel used when he doesn't even want to commit to me and wants to stay with his wife.
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confession is good for the soul. Rest peacefully now that you have confessed your sin and say ten Hail Mary's.
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Found by Sera
i feel like I disappointed my pastor by getting baptized in my church and then not going to church very often. this makes me sad
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You should worry about your relationship with God, not your pastor.
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In Mica it says to do God's work nothing is said about going to church
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Well said. Agree. NZ.
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me to (little_nikki TM)
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I've heard that we are not human beings having spiritual experiences, but spiritual beings having human experiences. So we are part of God wherever we go.
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We are God, and God is us.
We are not made to spend our lives worrying about whether we disappoint other humans because that will always happen. If you spend your life worrying, you will never be good enough. It is our duty to take care of each other and of our Earth. If we do that, we will be the person we were meant to be.
Besides, the holiest place I've ever been was in the heart of a forest, looking out over a green valley. Church is where you find it.
Old Crow
Beckley, WV, USA
9/9/06
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Oh I like that - Church is where you find it! I don't go to Church but I pray and talk to God all the time.
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Disappointing your pastor is not as important as disappointing God. Do something nice for someone today.
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thanks for the kind words, i've been trying to figure out how to work the religion issue with my boyfriend and it's been hard. I really like the line, "Church is where you find it.." and where you feel it...
thanks! Sarah, Vermont
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yeah to all of that
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I wish people would keep their religion to themselves.
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to be a good person is what it is all about. Do as Jesus would do.
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I don't believe in religion, but I believe in being good to other people and taking care of our home, the earth. If religion helps you feel good about yourself and be kind to your fellow man, that's great. If it doesn't, leave it behind. Life is too short for guilt trips and meaness. Live, love, and enjoy those around you. If you want a religion, try this:
"Kindness is my religion"
(by the Dalai Llama)
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I too, really like the "Church is where you find it". I read my Bible, and I pray right here at home, and anywhere else I feel led to do so. In the forest, on the beach, walking down the street. I pray as Jesus instructed, in private (to myself in public places). As much as I've read the my bible I have never read where Jesus promoted any one religion.
Religion is manmade.
The definition of Christian is Christ like. Follow God's word, and Jesus' example. God is the one you will ultimately answer to, not your Pastor :)
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It's comforting to know that there are people who feel as I do out there - thank you for your messages - you have made me feel more at peace.
Found by Sera
What was a "defining moment" in your life?
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When I realized that my best friend was my soul mate
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When I stopped expecting my parents to be perfect. I grew up that day and I was almost 30 years old.
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I am still waiting for it. Hopefully it will come soon..............
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My wedding day absolutely. I never understood the meaning of " walking on air" until that day, and actually experienced that sensation. Very euphoric.........and I might add, it was 30 years ago!!!
A in Toronto 29/09/06
Found by Sera
School is starting in less than 2 weeks. Aaaaaaaaaah :(
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School started here Aug. 7th...Dallas GA
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We homeschool so school starts Sept 4th Marie in Texas
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I wish I could go to school rather than be stuck in this office all day ... you may not believe it now but school days really are the best days of your life ... so enjoy them and enjoy the carefree life you live right now because it does get harder !! ... Im 29 and would love to love those days over and over again!!
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Personally, I can't wait to get back to college! :-D
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school stared here on august 14th-le in ap
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Starting college in January.
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School days - when I thought things were so complicated. Now I know they are and were "the best days of your lives" as previously stated.
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I dont start till Sept 29th!
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Blah Blah Blah Blah......
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holidays start 21st sept 2006 here [queensland australia]
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yawn
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Life is one big school Hopper BBOT UK
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So glad to be out of school and working. Hated school but I know I needed it.
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I didn't much enjoy school either.
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School wasn't fun, but college is absolutely the best. School started August 28. Not too bad.
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I didnt like school.. lol wish I had worked harder tho.. Lai~uk
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If it weren't for school, you'd probably have no social life. So quit complaining! There are some people who don't get a free education like you!!
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Actually we never stop learning...just different types of classrooms....Enjoy life to the fullest as often as you can....during school days or after....
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Ok I don't think anyone was complaining. I believe the way I read it they were saying they didn't like school but were sorry now they didn't learn or pay more attention. So you could get off their backs, they learned their lesson.
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Hated school, the nuns, the HORRIBLE nuns back in the 50's and 60's. School was a lot different then. BUT the fun afterwards with the kids from the public schools and the sock hops, and the 60's cars...and I could go on and on...best days~~the Summer of 69!
*C* in Chicago USA
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school is boring but you need it
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Nothing is school is ever boring. Just open up your minds and get involved.
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I hated school and I've learnt more out of school than I did while there.
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On vacation here
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Another homeschooler here. We have school year round, but for the most part it really is fun. Part of that fun is that I (the teacher) am often learning right along with my kids. They think that's great! Mommy has to do "homework" too! LOL
Hauser, Oregon 9/19/06
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Hey, C in Chicago, I went thru the Catholic school system around the same time as you!!!! I lucked out, as I had Dominican nuns, and 90of them were fantastic. Gave me my thirst for knowledge and my liberal democrat political views. Summer of 69 rules!!!!!! Lynne PA USA at bottleparty 9-20-06
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I was educated by the fist of the christian brothers.About half of them were really good the other half have a lot to answer for. School was not fun.
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No more school here! I'm currently a stay at home mom. :)
Found by Sera
Are happy? Are you where you want to be - with who you want to be with? Have you made the right choices that got you where you are today? Or are you just content, and you think that is good enough?
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I am very happy. I have a wonderful husband, two great kids, and 2 goofy dogs. But the most important thing is I am in love with Jesus and live my life for Him.
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No, not happy here! Not anywhere near where I want to be! I thought I made the right choices and ended up wasting 3 years of my life on the wrong man who cheated on me!
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Cheer up! You'll find the right one eventually, and your bad experiences are so you'll appreciate him even more :) -June ...
And i think that 80of men is made of jerks so try to find your happiness inside of you then you'll see that nobody can ever cheat on you again because you won't be hurt -Lucy(Paris)
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Yes, what she said :)
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"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending"
~ we all deserve to be happy - go for your dreams! DE, USA 9/9/06
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throwing it back in
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Just be thankful you didn't waste more than 3 years. So many stay and have miserable lives. You can have a new beginning with a happy ending. I wish you the best.
USA
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i am at a satisfactory place in my life.
i have my family, my licence to drive, a car, an application in for uni, and now all i need is Mr Right. As long as his first name isn't always.
c.u.f
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Happy? More like semi-content. Personally and financially I am not where I want to be. No, I haven't made the right choices in life, so no one to blame but myself. And at my age, I've pretty much given up on all of it.
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Happines is a state of mind, and my mind states that I am happy, therefore I am.
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I'm with the person I want to be with and am working on the rest. I have spoiled things somewhat in the past few years but have been given a chance to choose a new direction. We are lucky that we have the strength and intelligence to find a better future. Whatever happens, it will be an adventure. RG UK
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No. Not happy, I haven't met any decent guys in years so at this rate I'm going to end up alone.
Oh well there are worse things
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I think that if someones not happy, then they should do something about it. Not saying that it will happen overnight....but eventually you will get the payoff. Be strong, determined and don't let no one stand in your way of your dreams
Found by Sera
